Individual Sessions

Frequently Asked Questions

Are our sessions confidential and if so, how do you ensure that confidentiality?

Yes, I am bound by confidentiality.

Everything you share with me remains between you and me. I take notes and keep them in a special folder with a coding system. I do not write your name anywhere. In my folder, I keep track of the parts I hear. This allows me to work carefully, during our session, at check-out, and at the start of our new session. At check-in, we always rediscover which parts we will work on this time.

Does a session always last 60 minutes?

A session typically lasts 60 minutes. I like to start on time.

This allows me to have flexibility towards the end of our session. Sometimes that's necessary. Other times, we might finish a bit earlier. If working longer would be helpful, I'll check with you to see if you have the time. I ensure a gentle conclusion to each session. It's appreciated if you are also on time: it gives us flexibility.

If my symptoms worsen after a session, what should I do?

That can happen and there's no need to be immediately alarmed.

Especially when working with parts that have more extreme roles, this can occur. These parts may intensify their behaviors. It's important to recognize this. It may require apologies from me, from you, or from both of us. If we can genuinely do that, it's a significant step forward. Part of you might hesitate to inform me if this happens. Let me know that ahead of time: we'll figure this out, even if it feels challenging.

Are all your clients queers and non-conformists?

I also work with people who have all the privileges you can imagine.

Many of my clients appreciate the spacious investigative space that emerges in contact with me. It's also a question of what you consider privilege. Perhaps culture has all the traffic lights green for you, and you find yourself on a priority lane... Somewhere you know that wisdom lies with the marginalized. Because for me, the traffic lights are on red, orange, and green, and when they're green I actively do my homework, I try to be aware of my own impact, and I'm open to my own blindness. I effortlessly notice differences that make a difference and feel curiosity when I don't understand something. A non-judgmental, non-shaming space to become curious together towards what is alive. This includes privilege. Whoever you are, and however you navigate culture, the sessions are about your Self and your parts, and what they need in deepening their relationships so that you can also stand more Self-lead and attuned in your life.

Do I have to pay for a trajectory all at once?

Preferably, yes.

As a single parent, I understand that paying large amounts all at once can be a hurdle. If this applies to you too, please send me a concrete payment plan with dates and number of installments. If you stick to that, it's a win/win for both of us. As a sole entrepreneur, I aim to minimize administrative tasks as much as possible. So, no worries: we'll figure it out

What if I have bought a trajectory and no longer feel like attending sessions with you?

That can happen.

Your trajectory does not expire. As long as I am alive, you can come back to me again. Refunds are generally not available."

How do I plan my sessions? And how much time should I leave between them?

You can book your sessions via: Schedule your session.

You decide how much time to leave between sessions. If I feel that it's been quiet for too long, you'll receive a casual request to touch base. No pressure. Usually, this opens the way to your next session with me.

Within what total timeframe do I need to schedule my sessions?

In principle, there is no deadline for the sessions you have booked with me. As long as I am alive, you can schedule your sessions with me.

What if I have to cancel my session within 24 hours due to circumstances beyond my control?

As John Lennon rightfully sang: 'Life happens while we are making other plans.'

In such cases, the cancellation policy does not apply. The cancellation policy is designed to ensure that we respect each other's time. You can count on me for that, and I also hope to rely on you in return. In cases of circumstances beyond our control, the cancellation policy does not apply.

If I were to have a complaint, who can I turn to?

First of all, how unfortunate that you have a complaint. I apologize in advance for that.

If it happens, there are three paths we can take:

1. You can directly come to me with your complaint and I will listen to you. You speak your parts and I take time to understand how your feedback resonates with me. I promise to speak to the best of my knowledge and conscience about my parts. Together, we will investigate whether your complaint can be addressed. Please contact me at welkom@authentiekepraktijken.nl for this.
2. Approaching me directly with a complaint might be too daunting. Understandable. In that case, you can turn to my collaborator: Nina van der Hoek. She is an IFS and IFIO therapist. You can reach her at: post@zusya.nl.
3. If you feel Nina might be biased to listen openly to your complaint about me, then you can turn to the court in the Rotterdam region where my practice is located.

Perhaps you see a fourth or even a fifth path to take. I would love to hear from you.

What if my question is not listed here?

If you have another question, could you please submit it to me via welkom@authentiekepraktijken.nl.